These days we are so inundated with technology and things, I end up feeling like a hamster on a wheel (that is electric powered), forcing me to run constantly. More and more I think that the simple life is the way to go. Sometime I greatly enjoy just sitting out in nature thinking, or reading a good book on a lazy Sunday afternoon.
To quote Ferris Bueller (yes, I am a product of the 80s), “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” It is true though. I keep realizing as I watch my daughter develop and grow she is watching me and what I do. She thinks TV/computer/phones are important because her dad and I use them constantly. I want to make a conscious effort to help her learn about other things being important like playing outside, spending time with family, playing a board game/cards, reading books (actual pages in books, no e-books).
I am not saying I am anti-technology, but there needs to be a balance. Unfortunately in this day and age there isn’t one. It is very technology heavy. To the point where we all sit in our own little space bubble and use technology. You can say we interact because there is social media, etc., but it just isn’t the same thing as actually spending time with someone and having a real conversation. There are people I am friends with on Facebook that I haven’t actually spoken to in over 5 years. Really, what kind of relationship is that? Don’t get me wrong. Again, it definitely has its purpose. I love the fact that I am able to keep in touch with family that lives elsewhere in the country. But again, it should be balanced. That is why I plan on setting up some rules for our household. Cell phones should be turned off (or at the very least “put away”) at a certain time. Limited TV/computer time. Having dinner as a family every night. Scheduling a family game night once a week. I know everyone says it, but I don’t know how many really heed it. Children are small for such a short amount of time. And because I am a quoting machine I would like to quote some more movies that say exactly what I mean.
“Your children love you, they want to play with you. How long do you think that lasts? Soon Jack may not even want you to come to his games. We have a few special years with our children, when they’re the ones that want us around. After that you’re going to be running after them for a bit of attention. It’s so fast Peter. It’s a few years, and it’s over. And you are not being careful. And you are missing it.”- Moira Panning from Hook
“You’ve got to grind, grind, grind at that grind stone. Though childhood slips like sand through a sieve. And all too soon they’ve up and grown and then they’ve flown. And it’s too late for you to give.”- Bert from Mary Poppins
Can I Carry You? –by Brad Anderson
“I guess that I can hold you
one more time before you grow.
And tell you that I love you
so that you will always know.
Please let me tie your shoe again.
One day you’ll tie your own.
And when you think back to this time
I hope it’s love I’ve shown.
Can I help you put your coat on?
Can I please cut up your meat?
Can I pull you in the wagon?
Can I pick you out a treat?
One day you might just care for me,
so let me care for you.
I want to be a part
of every little thing you do.
Tonight could I please wash your hair?
Can I put toys in the bath?
Can I help you count your small ten toes
before I teach you math?
Before you join a baseball team
can I pitch you one more ball?
And one more time can I stand near
to make sure you don’t fall?
Let’s take another space-ship ride
Up to the Planet Zoor.
Before our Cardboard Rocket
doesn’t fit us anymore.
Please let me help you up the hill.
while you’re still too small to climb.
And let me read you stories
while you’re young and have the time.
I know the day will come
when you will do these things alone.
Will you recall the shoulder rides
and all the balls we’ve thrown?
I want you to grow stronger
than your Dad could ever be.
And when you find success
there will be no soul more proud than me.
So will you let me carry you?
One day you’ll walk alone.
I cannot bear to miss one day
from now until you’ve grown.”
What I hope you take away from this is- spend TIME with your children. Time where it is just you and them because they will be grown and gone before you know it. I have to remind myself constantly to savor every moment because my baby girl is quickly growing and she won’t be a baby for much longer.