Once my husband and I had found out we were having our first child, there wasn’t a question that I was going to stay home with the baby. It was something we had discussed way back when we were dating and we found we were definitely on the same page. If we could afford it, why wouldn’t I make the choice of being there 24/7 for our daughter? The problem is, I think there is a great deal of misinformation and misunderstanding of what the job of stay at home mom entails. Don’t misunderstand me. I absolutely love being home with my daughter, but I don’t think I fully understood what it meant when I decided to take on the job. You see, to the outsider, the stay at home mom job is all roses and sunshine. Images come to mind of twirling in a filed of daisies. Okay, at least mine kind of was.
So needless to say when I actually made that jump from teaching (a job which I absolutely loved) to being at home, there was kind of a stark realization that hit me square in the face. This is indeed a JOB. Long hours. Exhaustion. Crankiness. Those are all things that come with it too. No one told me that the largest part of the job description was cleaning up messes, washing dishes, changing diapers, cooking, laundry and catering to people.
Now I know it seems like I am painting staying at home in a bad light, and that is by no means my intention. I just was unaware of the reality of it. And I don’t think stay at home moms get enough credit from others, because, honestly, others just don’t truly understand. I know I fully didn’t before hand. Sometimes others think it is a dream job, or easy. Have you ever heard someone tell you, “Geez, I wish I got to stay home all day.” I can’t tell you how hearing that makes me feel being on the inside. I kind of want to rip that person’s hair out!
No, it isn’t easy. No, we don’t sit around eating Bon Bons all day long. We are lucky if we get 5 minutes to ourselves in all of the whirlwind and running around that happens. It is probably one of the most difficult jobs I have had. So you might ask me, “Well, why do it then?” I will tell you why moms do it. Because they absolutely love their children and would do anything for them. Stay at home moms make sacrifices every day for their children. They want what is best for them and they want to be there for them always.
Now if you are a working mom, please don’t be offended, because I seriously don’t mean any offense. I know you love your children just as much, and sacrifice a lot too. But the purpose of this post is to make others aware that stay at home moms don’t have it easy. Their jobs are just as, if not more difficult than other jobs, so much more than people realize. So I guess my point is, unless you have walked a day in a stay at home mom’s shoes, you really don’t get what the job entails. Don’t make assumptions that they have it easy. And even though it is a difficult job, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I love being able to watch all the little things. I love being there for her first steps, first words, dancing to music, playing with a new toy, smiling at me and having fun spending time together. It is also the most rewarding job I have ever had and I feel so blessed to be able to do it.